Did any of us entering our first marriage stop to say, “Wow, this is the wrong person to marry, but I am going to do it anyway”? Doubtful.
Usually we thought this person was right for us. Most of us expected to be with that person for life. Those who quickly take the attitude
of “off with the old and on with the new,” not looking at past mistakes, will be carrying old, worn-out baggage into a new marriage.
It is not comfortable for most of us to admit, but we each contributed to the failure of our first marriage. page 8
Bill states, “I didn’t ask any of them [family] what they thought, and I really didn’t give a damn what they thought.
We were at a family reunion with this cousin when we made the announcement of our forthcoming marriage." page
15
Because I did not want to go through a divorce, put my children through that, I would just sucked up the verbal abuse from
the ‘beast.’” Under his breath, Geoff stated, “Those sucking-up days are over!” Penelope laughed heartily at his words. page 46
In summing up our interview, they both advised couples contemplating a remarriage “to know what you like, what you want
before you make a decision to marry again. Find time to know yourself—do not expect someone else to complete you. And, talk, talk,
know the lines of communication are open in all situations." page 70
Turning up the volume in his voice,
which had been very soft all evening, Derek expressed his annoyance toward his mother-in-law (the one he so generously looked after
when she needed them): “She irritated the hell out of me!” Regardless of his feelings toward her, it did not keep him from being available
to her—his love for Colleen extended to the needs of her mother. page 94
